Updated: May 19
** The juice is at the end
Firstly, become aware of your routines:
One way to become more self-aware is by making a list of all your habits throughout a typical day (write down everything you did in a day, no matter how minuscule the pattern).
Next, categorize these habits by their impact on you/your day: this can be positive, negative, or neutral.
For example, brushing your teeth in the morning can be seen as a "positive" because keeping up with self-care is essential.
Another example, playing videogames for an hour after coming home from school/work can be seen as a "negative" if it interferes with other tasks or goals you should have been working on instead; however, it can also be seen as a "neutral" if it helped you recharge your batteries after a long, productive day. Stronger yet, it can even be seen as a "positive" if, for example, playing a particular video game after work allows you to stay in contact with a distant close friend that you wouldn't otherwise be able to see - or have a reason to contact.
Given these examples, how you rate your habits is a matter of perspective. What is only essential is that you become aware of your habits and routines - this is the first step in being able to change them.
Finally, as a bonus, make a list of new habits you think you would ideally replace your negative patterns with.
Make this list to become aware of how you could manage your time differently.
Secondly, one should actively work on adapting these (or similar) mindsets:
Become more proactive and be intentional about how you live life.
Rather than being self-doubting and living a life of inaction, try to live life on a trial-and-error basis: do this by simply doing and expecting failure rather than avoiding it - and using your failures as learning-material.
Stop wasting time over-thinking about irrelevant details and wasting even more time over-thinking about having wasted your time over-thinking; one shouldn't dwell on the past, instead, live life proactively, working in the present on what you think you want for the future.
In other words, live actively, not reactively; live in the present and work towards the future, rather than living in the past and doubting yourself in the present.
Finally, acquiring "motivation":
Break the cycle of living reactively by simply "doing."
Even if a demanding task is worked on for 5 minutes, 5 minutes of action towards a goal is better than complete inaction (often due to procrastination caused by one's natural tendency to avoid discomfort).
Frequently, even the most demanding tasks are way less challenging than they appear on first impression or in one's imagination.
Second, you must understand that action and motivation are part of the same closed-circle loop:
Motivation causes action
Action causes inspiration
Inspiration causes motivation
Therefore, if your motivation is lacking, don't wait for yourself to magically find it; you can induce motivation by starting with action.
This is because action (the act of simply doing something) causes inspiration, and inspiration causes motivation.
Therefore, to find motivation, start by simply doing.